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By Samar Minallah | News & Politics | Published 16 years ago

The custom of sar paisa is prevalent in some parts of NWFP. The bridegroom, to be able to marry, will pay a sum that is large of into the girl’s moms and dads. This custom transforms her into an item of financial value, devoid of feelings or emotions. This living, breathing object of value can in fact be offered and re-sold for an increased price — without a family’s ‘honour’ being at risk. The more ‘honour’ her family gains in fact, the higher her value.

Maimoona from Parachinar finished up in Kohat prison whenever she declined become juggled from a single guy to some other for an increased cost. She had been offered off to her relative for 50,000 rupees in marriage. Meanwhile, her paternal relative got an offer of one-and-a-half lakh rupees, that he easily accepted on the behalf without her permission.

The only option kept before Maimoona would be to escape along with her spouse. Having no written evidence of their marriage that is legal finished up in Kohat prison. Maimoona’s brothers and paternal cousins are attempting their utmost to have her out from the prison so that you can regain their lost honour and cash.

Niyaz Khela, who is in her own fifties that are late belongs to Karak. She ended up being downered off in wedding to a person much older to her. Nevertheless inside her teenagers then, her spouse would often beat her over trivial issues. So that you can getting away from life of misery, she eloped with another guy who she had met while she had opted to fetch water.

Needing to choose from the likelihood of being killed and living life of torment with a guy who does continue steadily to mistreat her, Niyaz Khela find the previous.

Barefoot, without any product control, she, along with her paramour, hid within the crevices regarding the tough hills of Karak, dodging the killers that chased her. “The gunshots would not frighten me personally because I preferred death to going back to an abusive spouse, ” claims Niyaz Khela. Nevertheless, after 2 yrs of hiding, Niyaz Khela’s 2nd spouse handled to pay for 10,000 rupees to her ex-husband, that was double the amount initially compensated by the very first husband as ‘bride cost. ’ In this manner not merely had been their pride elated but his lost ‘honour’ ended up being additionally regained in the form of economic revenue.

In Karak, a married girl has a greater cost available in the market because her ex-husband, if alive, has got to be paid for meetmindful their economic loss. Unless, he could be offered an increased cost than just exactly what he previously initially taken care of the girl, he gets pighore (taunt) through the community.

The male perpetrator is usually killed and the woman sent back to the parents, who try once again to marry her off if money is not paid as compensation. The cash they receive from her 2nd wedding is paid down to her aggrieved ex-husband.

Hence, right right right here, more guys are killed this kind of offences because a female, regardless of if this woman is abandoned or divorced because of the spouse, nevertheless has an amount on the market. The person can be acquitted if he will pay a lot of money as settlement to your party that is aggrieved. Consequently honour, in this context, is connected more to wide range than to one’s ethical behavior.

As Niyaz Khela confirms, ‘Moozh watan kay topak aao paisa balaa dee, ’ (inside our town weapons and cash are leaders! ). It’s been a lot more than four years since Niyaz Khela abandoned her town and settled in Islamabad being a financial migrant. Her 2nd husband left her for the next girl who he purchased at a price that is reasonable.

Residing in a tiny ghetto, exercising her traditions in a international land, Niyaz Khela had to strive to marry down her three kids, all on her behalf very very very own. She worked as being a labourer, making bricks when it comes to high-rise structures of Islamabad to pay for a bride for starters of her sons. On her younger son, she got a bride in swarra (change of females) being a trade along with her very very own daughter.

It really is interesting that while honour may be tarnished with a slight slide of behavior, traditions like swarra and sar paisa, where a female can be used as a object of value or a musical instrument to build alliances, bring honour. Niyaz Khela, like a number of other Pukhtuns, doesn’t have option but to check out the customs her forefathers practiced. In cases where a Pakhtun doesn’t work relating to Pakhtunwali, he or she is not any longer considered a dhroon Pakhtun (an honourable Pakhtun). It’s very difficult also for a rather gallant Pakhtun to manage the pighore that is venomous. The only method to free oneself through the wrath of pighore is always to prove his/her allegiance to ‘Pakhunwali’(the Pakhtun rule of conduct), that could also be during the cost of someone’s life.

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